Most men detest dealing with emotion.  But the Bible talks about life in the Spirit being a life of pure emotion, love, joy, peace, patience … you get the picture.  

Men, here are some tips for experiencing emotion God’s way. Tip One is to back up and pray about it. If she ticks you off, if that friend hurts your feelings, do not bottle it in and do not do the opposite of that and let it all out without praying about it. I’m not saying that you’ve got to lay a mat out and pray for an hour, but you cannot connect to the Spirit of God without praying. So choose the Spirit and pray about it. Yell at God. Cry to God. Connect to the Spirit.

Tip Two is to write it out. Because we suck at expressing our feelings, a good way to get them out is to write them. That way you know what you’re feeling. You can’t deny it. You can’t run from it. It’s right there in black and white.

Tip three is to use your time on the way home from work to reconnect to yourself. Because you spend your day producing and not emoting, take the ride home as a chance for you to process your day and to get ready for your family. That could mean listening to your favorite radio station, or it could mean screaming out loud for three minutes non-stop. You should try that sometime, it’s actually therapeutic.

Tip four is to share what you’re feeling with the person for whom you are feeling it. If you love your woman, then you need to tell her that you love her. If you’re disappointed in your boss at work, tell her. If you’re proud of your son, let him know that.  

Be a man of the Spirit.  Be a man of emotion.  The alternative is just … a more boring you.